Updated: Sep 21, 2022
Uhhhh ok, well, it’s kind of unavoidable. Sorry. Our childhoods are firsthand data on being children and interacting with a parent, so our parents' position is often our default, especially when we are caught tired, stressed and overwhelmed - which, let’s be real, is most of the time. And that is why when we are in the presence of children, we have to reboot and start fresh. Otherwise, we will do and say the same things that horrified or annoyed us when our mothers did and said it. And some of us actually can’t help it, it’s kind of the only thing we know. And no judgement for that - it’s so important to acknowledge it so you can do something about it, if you want. To do that, just be present.